The Buttplug Guide: The Good, Bad & The Kinky
For Everything Cute & Kinky
Feel like taking a trip down anal avenue? Whether you’re a newbie to the butt-stuff or a seasoned anal-explorer, this article is for you.
So…what is a butt plug, exactly?
Well, they’re an adult toy, designed to be inserted into the anus for sexual gratification. They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, but the universal purpose is for them to be inserted into the butthole for different sensations and hopefully, pleasure!
Sometimes butt plugs are used a precursor to anal sex as they’re smaller than the average penis and therefore good for easing you into anal penetration. Butt plugs generally have a narrow tip that widens from the middle to the end. They usually have a slim neck for comfortable removal and a flared bottom to prevent losing the plug up somewhere unpleasant. Many types of buttplugs also come with jeweled bases - this type of plug is normally called a princess plug.
If done carefully, anal play is something that can be really pleasurable and exciting, whether used during masturbation or sex. But before you change your browser privacy settings and hunt down the plug of your dreams, there’s a few things you should consider..
1. Stainless Steel or Silicone?
The age old question! Which material to go for depends on your preferences, both plugs are perfectly suitable for beginners.
Silicone buttplug pros:
- They are soft, light and typically more comfortable than metal plugs.
- Tend to be slightly cheaper than metal plugs.
- Greater selection to choose from in most cases.
Silicone buttplug cons:
- They cannot be used with silicone based or hybrid lubricants meaning that other lubricants that are not as long lasting must be used.
Metal buttplug pros:
- They are extremely smooth making it very easy to insert & remove.
- They are heavier than silicone plugs, this makes for a more intense sensation which most people find more pleasurable than with silicone.
- Can be used with any type of lubricant including silicone which lasts for a very long time, this can be very helpful if you are planning on keeping the plug inserted for long duration's.
Metal buttplug cons:
- Less selection in comparison to silicone plugs.
- Some people may find them a little too intense.
2. Tail Buttplugs.
Tailplugs are another exciting way of introducing butt plugs into your sex life. They are extremely popular within the Petplay, DDLG & BDSM communities (learn about DDLG here) They are typically made from faux fur & are styled on different animal tails as well as neko anime styles.
There are many kinds such as bunny, fox, dog, pony, cat/kitten & many more! Tailplugs will help you unleash that inner animal within! So if regular old buttplugs aren't really your thing, maybe a super cute fuzzy accessory bundled with one is exactly what you need to convince you.
Friction is not your friend. Lube is a necessity for anal play. Your anus doesn’t self-lubricate so you need to give it a little helping hand. You don’t have to purchase a top end lubricant but be sure to check out some reviews first and make an educated purchase.
You should also take into consideration the material of any sex toys you’ll be using with the lube. Are they glass, silicone, steel?
Using a silicone-based lube could damage any silicone toys you have whereas a water-based lube can be used with any toy. However, silicone-based lube generally lasts longer because they contain no water, therefore it never dries.
When you do use lube, be sure to apply it generously. And when you think you’ve got enough, add another dollop to be safe. The experience will go much smoother and your butt will thank you. Trust me.
2. Patience is key.
Rome wasn’t built in a day..
..and neither will your ability be to withstand a large butt plug. Sexual experimentation is fun, we know. But take it slowly! We recommend you begin with a small butt plug. Use a good amount of lube and ease the toy in carefully. Once you’ve introduced your anus to the new object and it’s relaxed, you can insert it fully and let your playtime begin.
With repeated use, your butthole will adjust to the penetration and you can begin introducing larger sizes, if you wish to. Some people find a small butt plug hits the spot and others will begin to crave the sensation of being stretched again. It’s about what makes you feel comfortable and gives you the most pleasure, so don’t be afraid to mess around and see what feels good. If you'd like to experiment with this we recommend our three piece buttplug set. Using this you can start off with the small plug & slowly ease yourself into using the larger plugs overtime.
3. Hygiene & Safety.
Don't hurt yourself..
Butt plugs are unisex, so regardless of your gender sexuality/identity, they can be used! But with all sex toys, keeping things clean is extremely important. While you’re having fun, you want to make sure that your butt plug is cleaned before and after use.
Be sure not to cross-contaminate between the anus and vagina either as this can cause UTI’s (urinary tract infections.)
Remember: butt toys are for the bum; vaginal toys are for the v-jay. Don’t let them get too acquainted with one another. If you use a vaginal vibrator up your back-hole you run the risk of your colon swallowing it up. Save yourself the embarrassing hospital visit and get yourself some designated butt toys.
The majority of sex toy brands will offer their own jazzy little cleaning wipes that won’t damage the material of your toy. But depending on your budget, you can grab a rag and some soap instead. Be sure to use hot water when cleaning and dry them off thoroughly. A rusty butt plug isn’t a particularly pleasing image, is it?
When not in use, keep your toys somewhere safe, like a drawer or closed box. Maybe slap a “keep out” sticker on there to protect them from prying eyes or nosey housemates.
4. Keep it Kinky.
Adding toys to your playtime can really jam up the intensity of your experience. Butt plugs can be used in a fairly vanilla setting, but when you add them to a roleplay session? They’re absolutely amazing.
Let’s talk about a D/s relationship. The ‘D’ is the dominant, who controls and directs their partner. The ‘s’ is the submissive, who relinquishes control and gives power to the dominant partner. If you want to intensify the experience, wearing a butt plug can increase the feeling of submission to your partner, particularly if you’re wearing some form of tailplug. For those with a vagina, using a butt plug reduces the amount of space in the pelvis which tightens the vagina. This is usually pleasurable for both parties!
Kitten play is a popular type of roleplay among the kinky community, especially for those in a ddlg relationship. In this type of roleplay, the submissive partner will don kitten accessories, such as kitten ears or a cat tail butt plug. This is an incredibly erotic experience for some people, particularly those already interested in BDSM.
Some couples adopt kitten play as a lifestyle and others prefer to keep it exclusive to their sex life. If it’s something that interests you, we encourage you to experiment!
If this is something that interests you as either the recipient or giver, be sure to check in with your partner first. We want you to embrace your sex life and find what you enjoy – but communication is super important. If you’re both happy to try it out, insert that butt plug with fearless abandon (and lots of lube. Seriously.)